Dear KC,
How are you? I hope you are feeling better. Can't imagine what you must have gone through losing Jake in such tragic circumstances. I can totally understand why you still can't drive down that road. It must be awful.
Luca sounds as though he is having a great time going for his rides in the car. Lewis loved going out in the car too he would stick his head out of the window and his jowls would be flapping about everywhere it was so funny.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Take care Lynne.x
Special blessings to my darling Lewis and your beloved Jake.xx
I Understand by: Lynne and Gary
Dear KC,
I understand how you feel. Sometimes I think that I'm going crazy too, I have even called my Husband Lewis. It's Monday night and I have just lit a candle for Lewis and Jake. Sometimes I close my eyes and picture the two of them up there at the bridge playing together and it brings a smile to my face.
It is so nice to have someone to connect with who understands the pain of losing a fur baby. This web site and you have helped me so much, just to know that someone else cares means a lot.
I hope Luca and the kitties enjoyed there Christmas presents? It was snowing this morning I looked through the window and got really upset because there were no paw prints in the snow, silly isn't it. I wish you and your family peace. Love always to my darling Lewis and your beloved Jake.
Lynne x
I Do This Too ; ) by: Bunny
Dear KC
It's nice to hear from you again and I'm glad you and Luca are well.
I just wanted to write and say that I think calling Luca by Jake's name is very normal, especially if your loss if sudden and unexpected.
My Mum lost her dog nearly three years ago now suddenly and we both still call her new dog by her original dog's name on a regular basis, and so do friends and family. In fact we're always saying it's a wonder he ever learnt to respond to his real name!
Also and this is quite embarrassing but I lost my cat Spider nearly 13 years ago and I still mistakenly call my other black cat Thomas by his name quite often.
When someone has been in your life for so long it's hard for your brain to deal with their sudden absence and most of us just automatically say our pet's names because we are so used to saying them. I don't think it's madness, I suppose it's just habit really.
But I also like to think that it's a way of keeping them with us. I often feel like my Mum's dog and my cat Spider are still with us somehow so it doesn't seem that strange to me that I still say their names anymore than it does when I mix up the names of the pets I can actually see.
People are always correcting us too but I think they may have given up now ;)
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