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'Diana & Leya'

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May 10, 2012


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Glad to read your response!
by: Chris

Dear Diana,

As you can see, I haven't lost track of this site. I am truly, truly glad that my words helped you. I can assure you yours help me too, and I was very happy to see that you responded. I wasn't sure whether to post or not in the first place, as the "object" we lost is different; but I think I can relate to your pain, and so can you to mine, because what's important, after all, is the fact that we've lost someone that we loved so much, cared about so much. What really matters is that when that someone is gone, you feel almost like you were gone too, or that a very big part of yourself was kind of "blown up".

Let me tell you, by the way, I have two very playful cats that we picked up from the street when they were no bigger than the palm of my hand. Now it's they who really have us - they're a little spoiled, you know! and it feels so peaceful when they are sleeping, one by the side of the other, one black and the other white. I agree though with the common believe that it's just not the same having cats or dogs. I think it must not be the same, because, as much as we love our cats, to be honest, they don't love you back as much as dogs do. It's OK, I don't expect them to do, it's nothing wrong with it, it's in their nature, and that's cool. Anyway, I'm talking too much!

I just can only tell you how glad I was that you responded Diana. No one can take your pain away except you, and I know you know that; but we, the "anonymous internet people", along with your friends and loved ones, can give you support and just tell you that "we understand". Getting over it is a very, very hard process, but I know we'll do.

Take care, and push on.
Chris.

Message from Chris
by: Diana

Dear Chris
I wasn't sure where to respond to you as I don't think you have a memorial on this site. But thank you for reading about Leya. She was such a beautiful and special girl. Thank you so much for taking time to write such caring and supportive words to me. You are right that it does help a lot to know that others understand how it feels to lose someone you love, whether it's a dog or a person. The pain is very real and seems like it will never end. With the help of kind people like yourself, we are able to go on. Chris, when I read your words I cried. I cried for both of us, for my loss and for yours.
Even with your own pain, you took time to write such encouraging and helpful words. It helped me, believe me it did. So thank you again.
I agree that we honour the ones we love most, by being the best we can be for them. Taking the lessons they taught us, and the love they left with us, and using that to make ourselves better people. Making sure we are the people our loved ones believed we were. I believe even though you have never had a dog, you truly do understand exactly how it feels to lose one. You are a very special person Chris.
I hope you also find strength and comfort from those amazing anonymous internet people.
Take care of yourself..
Diana
08/08/2012
by: Chris

I know that if you tell somebody about it, they will probably laugh at you. They will tell you: it's just a dog, get over it! And it's false. It's your friend. It's part of yourself. I have never lost a dog, cause I never had one; but my girlfriend left me almost a year ago. Every second I remember her. She's moved on. Her life goes on without me. I understand this pain that you are feeling. I know it was not "just a dog", it was something else, and nobody will ever, ever understand what you are going trough. But push on, please, do push on. Rely on the "anonymous" internet people that supports you. It's a beautiful thing to know that there are people around the world that just understand what you are going through. I can not say anything that will make you feel less sad for your loss; but I can tell you this: HANG ON IN THERE!!!!!! I know it sounds awfully childish and lame, but please; I know you'll always keep her memories in a safety box, just like I do; that's good, nothing wrong with it. But just build up that box, and say to yourself: this is a way of honoring my friend, remembering her. She did not like it when I was sad, so I will try not to be, even if it takes some time. I'm gonna be as OK as I can for her. That's the way I will honor her.

I was really moved by this page you made. I hope that this helps you. Go on, push on, hang on!!!!!!

Hugs. Chris.

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